Posts Tagged ‘facebook’

What’s happening these days…

Posted in Personal, Self Care on November 28th, 2009 by Jim Hughes – 5 Comments
Light and Leaves

Light and Leaves

I haven’t posted on Difficult Seasons for a while.  It wasn’t something that was planned.  Rather it was something that just happened. Once it started, it continued.

I have been posting a lot of photos to my personal blog, and in truth, have been spending a lot more time working on my photography.  It’s part of my self care effort.  It helps me see. I find myself looking at things more closely, studying the light, looking for the beauty. I love the challenge of learning the skills. But even more, I enjoy the creative process of trying to capture an image, working to get it just right in the camera, and then fine-tuning it in Lightroom.

I’ve also continued to post frequently to Twitter and facebook.  Twitter keeps me connected to a fairly large group of folks, most of whom I’ve never met in person, but many of whom I’ve developed friendships with.  It also provides me a window into several of my interests (including photography), as well as exposure to a broader world than I encounter in my normal daily walk. Facebook is similar, except nearly all of the people I’m connected to are people that I’ve met face-to-face, including a large number from my church family.  I intentionally limit my facebook friends to people I know — it’s a more intimate forum than Twitter for me.  It allows us to keep up with what’s happening in each others’ lives and keep more connected than we otherwise could.

To be honest, though, I just haven’t felt like writing. There’s been a lot going on that would have provided material for this blog. I’ve attended four funerals for my friends’ parents or spouses, and there are stories that go with each. I have several good friends who are struggling against long odds with cancer, and there are lessons in how they are dealing with this part of life. My visits with patients at M.D. Anderson provides plenty to share. I just haven’t wanted to process all of this through writing.

But I think that’s changing. For the past week or so, I’ve felt the pull to begin again — as much for me as for those who drop by and read.

Maybe there are seasons to write, and seasons to be silent?

Three Ways to Help People Heal

Posted in Chaplaincy and Pastoral Care, Personal on April 29th, 2009 by Jim Hughes – Comments Off

Tonight I had the opportunity to speak to the chapel class at First Colony Church of Christ.

My subject was “Three Ways to Help People Heal.”  Here’s the outline, with links to some blog posts where I’ve discussed the points.

Jesus, the Great Healer, is our model.  (John 8:1-11, Luke 7:36-50)

  • He saw.
  • He loved.
  • He listened.
  • He was non-judgmental.
  • He offered hope.

1.  Be Present (Jesus saw people.  “Simon, don’t you see this woman?”)

  • In person, on the phone, by email, on Facebook, with a text message, with a card or note.
  • Be fully focused on them for the time you’re with them.

2.  Project that you like them no matter if they’re physically, emotionally, and/or spiritually not at their best.

  • A real smile.
  • Eye contact.
  • Touch.
  • You can do this in person, but you can also do it on the phone, by email, on Facebook, in a text, or in a note.

3.  Listen non-judgmentally (“let him who is without sin cast the first stone”, “neither do I condemn you”).

Let God do the heavy stuff.

  • Pray.
  • Don’t get in the way.
  • Point to Him.

Will Facebook Replace CaringBridge and CarePages?

Posted in Caregiving, Illness on April 23rd, 2009 by Jim Hughes – 6 Comments

Yesterday I wrote about using web applications such as CaringBridge and CarePages to keep friends and relatives informed about serious illness or injuries.  I also recommended blogs.

Sure enough, it wasn’t long until one of my Facebook friends read the post and commented on Facebook that they used Facebook for that purpose.  I have in fact noticed a growing use of Facebook to do exactly that in my circle of friends.

In yesterday’s post, I didn’t mention Facebook primarily because people who are not your friends on Facebook don’t/can’t see the information.

But the likelihood that your friends and family are in fact on Facebook is  changing fast.  There are currently 200 million people who have a Facebook account, 60 million of them in the U.S.  That’s one out of every five Americans alive.  Further, the over 35 demographic of Facebook has doubled in the last two months.

That means that a lot of your friends and family who will be interested are on Facebook.   So, depending on your situation, it may be a very viable communication tool for this purpose.  And it’ll get better by the day.

In fact, within a year, I won’t be surprised to see it all but replace the specialized web applications like CaringBridge and CarePages.  Why?

  1. People are already using it for other communication with friends and family.  They’re all comfortable with it, it’s easy to use, and it’s rapidly becoming second nature.  Why use something else?
  2. I believe that within a year, most people that use the web at all will be using Facebook.  It is rapidly becoming THE communication tool that we all are on and using.

So, what’s your take.  Do you think Facebook will replace CaringBridge and CarePages?

This is Post No. 100

Posted in Personal on March 17th, 2009 by Jim Hughes – Comments Off

This is post no. 100 for Difficult Seasons.

It probably should have been a “heavy” post, rather than just a reflection on reaching a small milestone, but it’s not.  Partly that’s because we’re on a short trip as you read this, visiting my wife’s mom.  Partly it’s because it’s good just to pause and evaluate what’s happened since I started this blog project a little over four months ago.

  • I’ve met a lot of good people who have read the blog and talked about their difficult seasons and/or given me encouraging words.
  • I’ve met more good folks while trying to increase readership using Twitter and facebook and using Google alerts to find other people who are writing about the same subjects.
  • I’ve been able to put down in writing some of the stuff that’s been floating around in my head for several years by adopting a disciplined approach to blogging.  That includes putting together two e books that otherwise I wouldn’t have gotten to.
  • I’ve been able to process through writing some of the things that are part of my own difficult seasons, and that are part of the difficult seasons that I share with others as a lay chaplain and a shepherding elder in a local church.

So, what about the next 100 posts?  My goal is to continue writing the series of posts on Caregiving and to collect the material into a book.  Along the way, I’ll write posts on other topics as well, depending on what I’m experiencing at the time.  As in everything, we’ll see where God takes it.

Thanks for reading and interacting.  We don’t travel our journeys through life alone.  Thanks for being a sojourner.